September 22, 2009
People always have choices. This I found true. It’s not about which choice you selected but how you faced corresponding effects of that choice.
I had the chance to converse with an office mate who also happened to be my classmate in my graduate management class. I’ve always wondered how other people at the office felt in not being assigned tasks or about work in general. Her answer reminded me that people always have choices. It may just be one of the things that make us human – the ability to identify possibilities and to decide.
She opted not to be “bibo” at work. Bibo is a term used to refers to people who are proactive and enthusiastic (beyond the normal level) about their work. She decided to be the average employee so she can have enough time for her family. She knows how other people will react to her decision and she has accepted them for the moment. It got me thinking that I have decided to be concerned and to take part in activities because I want to feel like I matter.
People prioritize things. The thing that tops their list is where they get the greatest fulfillment. For my classmate, hey family tops her list. That is why she made her decision. I prioritize work. Perhaps because it’s where I get the confirmation I seek. At the moment, it’s where I get fulfillment. It’s where I feel I matter the most. That is why work tops my list.
Recently, I have been asking myself why I do the things I don’t have to do. Why do I punish myself in meeting deadlines that some people can get away not meeting? Why do I edit papers after office when I should be resting and enjoying my life – outside work? Why do I still want to go to the office even if I’m met with tons of papers to edit and rate? Because I want to.
And since I have made that decision, I should be sticking with it. Easier said than done especially when I spent a lot of time thinking how sarcastic or unmotivated I currently am. What then keeps me going? It’s the thought that wherever I am or whatever I may be experiencing may not necessarily be the best – but it’s still better than other jobs I can think of. So I can say I am okay where I am – for the moment at least.